Comments for Carrie Tallman http://carrietallman.com Compassionate Financial Coaching Mon, 18 Apr 2011 14:59:34 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.1.1 Comment on The Financial Disconnect by Carrie http://carrietallman.com/2011/04/the-financial-disconnect/#comment-91 Carrie Mon, 18 Apr 2011 14:59:34 +0000 http://carrietallman.com/?p=807#comment-91 It's true, most of us pick up our beliefs about money from our parents. Unfortunately most of those beliefs are unconscious, and so we keep doing (or not doing) the same things around money. I'm not surprised to hear that it was your friend who helped you take a closer look - and not the divorce. Compassion is where the real break-throughs happen, b/c we've already been beating ourselves up about not looking for years, and it hasn't helped. Forgiving ourselves and trusting we can do better is a much more effective (and kinder) path. Thanks for sharing your experience!! It’s true, most of us pick up our beliefs about money from our parents. Unfortunately most of those beliefs are unconscious, and so we keep doing (or not doing) the same things around money. I’m not surprised to hear that it was your friend who helped you take a closer look – and not the divorce. Compassion is where the real break-throughs happen, b/c we’ve already been beating ourselves up about not looking for years, and it hasn’t helped. Forgiving ourselves and trusting we can do better is a much more effective (and kinder) path. Thanks for sharing your experience!!

]]> Comment on The Financial Disconnect by rosie taylor http://carrietallman.com/2011/04/the-financial-disconnect/#comment-90 rosie taylor Mon, 18 Apr 2011 14:12:16 +0000 http://carrietallman.com/?p=807#comment-90 For me, the disconnect was passed down from my parents. Now in my forties I had the great fortune to have a friend that cared enough to tell me how important it is for women to take care of their finances. You would think after an ugly divorce, I would've learned better. You are so right that women do know better deep down. We choose to ignore that nagging feeling that we're missing something in our lives. I still struggle, but now I keep trying to get my head around it instead of saying, "well math isn't my thing." Keep the insights coming, Carrie! For me, the disconnect was passed down from my parents. Now in my forties I had the great fortune to have a friend that cared enough to tell me how important it is for women to take care of their finances. You would think after an ugly divorce, I would’ve learned better. You are so right that women do know better deep down. We choose to ignore that nagging feeling that we’re missing something in our lives. I still struggle, but now I keep trying to get my head around it instead of saying, “well math isn’t my thing.” Keep the insights coming, Carrie!

]]> Comment on Rich Dad, Poor Dad. What about Mom? by Carrie http://carrietallman.com/2011/04/rich-dad-poor-dad-what-about-mom/#comment-89 Carrie Wed, 13 Apr 2011 02:58:14 +0000 http://carrietallman.com/?p=752#comment-89 Hi Rosie, thanks for visiting my site and for your input! Interesting, isn't it? In general, I notice that the men-folk are much more tuned-in to their money. Clearly cultural, but big implications for the gender divide. My hunch is that women hold back on their financial potential as a way to stay safe on a deeper level. It's a bit counter-intuitive and absolutely worth exploring more! Looking forward to more exchanges:). Hi Rosie, thanks for visiting my site and for your input! Interesting, isn’t it? In general, I notice that the men-folk are much more tuned-in to their money. Clearly cultural, but big implications for the gender divide. My hunch is that women hold back on their financial potential as a way to stay safe on a deeper level. It’s a bit counter-intuitive and absolutely worth exploring more! Looking forward to more exchanges:).

]]> Comment on Rich Dad, Poor Dad. What about Mom? by Rosie http://carrietallman.com/2011/04/rich-dad-poor-dad-what-about-mom/#comment-88 Rosie Wed, 13 Apr 2011 01:24:15 +0000 http://carrietallman.com/?p=752#comment-88 Carrie, you articulated something I've always felt. I'm a little older than you but the 'guys' in the office (always younger) seemed to always have money to play the market or invest. Why didn't I? Why don't I now even years later? I agree that Christine's analogy put things in perspective. I can relate to waiting for sales and knowing the cycles of assets at the store. (If you wait long enough, it's on the Clearance Rack.) This topic definitely needs more exploration. I'll be watching and learning! Thanks for sharing your insight. Carrie, you articulated something I’ve always felt. I’m a little older than you but the ‘guys’ in the office (always younger) seemed to always have money to play the market or invest. Why didn’t I? Why don’t I now even years later? I agree that Christine’s analogy put things in perspective. I can relate to waiting for sales and knowing the cycles of assets at the store. (If you wait long enough, it’s on the Clearance Rack.) This topic definitely needs more exploration. I’ll be watching and learning! Thanks for sharing your insight.

]]> Comment on Rich Dad, Poor Dad. What about Mom? by Carrie http://carrietallman.com/2011/04/rich-dad-poor-dad-what-about-mom/#comment-87 Carrie Tue, 12 Apr 2011 13:27:11 +0000 http://carrietallman.com/?p=752#comment-87 Ooo, that's an amazing analogy Chistine! Thanks for sharing. I think a lot of women shut down when stocks or bonds come up, but when put in the context of shopping, it's clear that we're naturals at valuing assets:). That might be a blog post... Ooo, that’s an amazing analogy Chistine! Thanks for sharing. I think a lot of women shut down when stocks or bonds come up, but when put in the context of shopping, it’s clear that we’re naturals at valuing assets:). That might be a blog post…

]]> Comment on Rich Dad, Poor Dad. What about Mom? by Christine Song http://carrietallman.com/2011/04/rich-dad-poor-dad-what-about-mom/#comment-86 Christine Song Mon, 11 Apr 2011 15:18:14 +0000 http://carrietallman.com/?p=752#comment-86 Carrie - this is an amazing post. Thank you for putting yourself out there. I can only imagine the hurdle women in non-investing careers must jump to get themselves to buy a stock. I learned one of my core investing values from a woman - my mother. She taught me the concept of intrinsic value versus market price, though she called it something else: “things going on sale.” When I was young and would plead for her to buy me something, she always waited and sure enough, things inevitably went on sale. Some of the greatest investing techniques are practiced by women each day and it's only a matter of applying their wisdom in a different context like investing. Carrie – this is an amazing post. Thank you for putting yourself out there. I can only imagine the hurdle women in non-investing careers must jump to get themselves to buy a stock.

I learned one of my core investing values from a woman – my mother. She taught me the concept of intrinsic value versus market price, though she called it something else: “things going on sale.” When I was young and would plead for her to buy me something, she always waited and sure enough, things inevitably went on sale. Some of the greatest investing techniques are practiced by women each day and it’s only a matter of applying their wisdom in a different context like investing.

]]> Comment on Are you Willing? by CS http://carrietallman.com/2010/11/wanting-are-you-willing/#comment-46 CS Mon, 03 Jan 2011 22:50:57 +0000 http://moneymeans.carrietallman.com/?p=474#comment-46 Such a meaningful distinction and thank you for sharing this insight that may have cost me a lot of coaching dollars to uncover ; ) Such a meaningful distinction and thank you for sharing this insight that may have cost me a lot of coaching dollars to uncover ; )

]]> Comment on Are you Willing? by Kim http://carrietallman.com/2010/11/wanting-are-you-willing/#comment-45 Kim Wed, 08 Dec 2010 04:56:30 +0000 http://moneymeans.carrietallman.com/?p=474#comment-45 Love this blog Carrie! I've found it will help me coach others this way. I often get frustrated when I hear people say they want a laundry list of things but they seem to not take any action towards it. It's so great to see that the key to opening the door is asking them if they're willing and ask what they're willing to do. I need to ask what price they're willing to pay to get what they want. Love this blog Carrie! I’ve found it will help me coach others this way. I often get frustrated when I hear people say they want a laundry list of things but they seem to not take any action towards it. It’s so great to see that the key to opening the door is asking them if they’re willing and ask what they’re willing to do. I need to ask what price they’re willing to pay to get what they want.

]]> Comment on Strategies in Loneliness by ctallman http://carrietallman.com/2010/11/455/#comment-44 ctallman Mon, 29 Nov 2010 14:36:09 +0000 http://moneymeans.carrietallman.com/?p=455#comment-44 True, it's sort of unavoidable in a way. Thanks for the encouragement James!! True, it’s sort of unavoidable in a way. Thanks for the encouragement James!!

]]> Comment on Strategies in Loneliness by James http://carrietallman.com/2010/11/455/#comment-43 James Sun, 28 Nov 2010 13:49:32 +0000 http://moneymeans.carrietallman.com/?p=455#comment-43 The holidays certainly seem to be the time to reflect on relationships and life. Perhaps this is why so many people set New Year's Resolutions? New Year, New You. Also, I really like that you are starting to write more from an emotional standpoint than an intellectual one :) You're finding your voice, and it is making you a better writer! The holidays certainly seem to be the time to reflect on relationships and life. Perhaps this is why so many people set New Year’s Resolutions? New Year, New You. Also, I really like that you are starting to write more from an emotional standpoint than an intellectual one :) You’re finding your voice, and it is making you a better writer!

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